What do I mean by Ghostly Feelings?
I mean the little flashbacks, the memories, the odd feeling that brings you back to a certain moment of your life. I mean seeing someone next to you when you know they aren't really there! I mean seeing something which isn't right in front of you... That one feeling you cannot fully describe but know is around, still cannot explain it to anyone who wants to understand what you are going through.
I personally couldn't get away from the feeling when my friends from Europe came to Santa Barbara back in November 2017. That year wasn't easy for me, between searching a new place to stay, starting two jobs, juggling bars, and work, personal time as well as friend time. Editing a novel and trying to keep track of my blog. The list could go on but I believe you know where I'm going with it.
So when I see friends, meet people from Europe in California, I feel like "home" again, I feel like I'm with real people, real friends. I can't think of anything bad to say about them except my friends... They didn't stay as long I would have hoped so, as they do have their lives back in either London or Edinburgh. Yes, Britain and Scotland, far away land... Still "home" to me because as a European, I know that no matter where I go in Europe, I will feel like "home". Our views on life and what is respectable as a society is the same, we all can relate, our education, our role in society. In the States, everyone has a different perspective on life, different laws from state to state, so when someone from Europe come, they don't relate to anyone.
Point made, my ghostly feeling, at the moment is concerning my friends, the ones who left back home. Sounds pathetic and yet, I cannot help myself have this feeling. I cannot help myself think about every piece of memory I have with them. It's like a missing feeling.
Here are some thoughts about the feeling...
Material things become important!
I ain't-a material person, I wouldn't mind not having a bed (I've done it before, I have indeed slept on a mattress and nothing more, it works well enough), but when it comes to memories... There's a whole new story to write. I have a bench, a simple, bus bench along side of the main street of Santa Barbara. A simple bench that holds long nights talks, long conversations about everything and anything. Sounds like nothing to many of you, but when these conversations went deeper than just small talks, you become aware of everything, little as it may sound or look. Each time I pass by that bench, everything comes to mind, little or not.
A pack of cigarettes in my bag just to remind me of a certain thing...
Every sad song or movie coming up will be a reminder...
When we are sad, we tend to push ourselves closer to sad songs, dramatic movies, things that will make us cry. It's human of us, instead of watching a comedy or listening to happy songs, we just pull ourselves to everything sad, similar to what we are feeling at that moment.
You go to places and all the sudden you think of them...
I have two bars where I still see them around playing pool, drinking old fashions, or smoking cigarettes outside on the patio. I still see my friend getting along with my bartender, the one who hates everyone. Go figure, my bartender finally approved of one guy, and that same guy had to leave. Deep down I know he wasn't fully accepting him, the day he will accept a guy it will be snowy in downtown Santa Barbara.
Think about other people? Forget about it...
Not as easy to do when all you can think of is their voices in the background. Yes, when I'm around in my bar, I still look for a sign that they are around, still looking for another Guinness next to mine (despite the fact that some of my friends do drink the same thing I do).
Not sure how to describe such a feeling without explaining my own experiences, my own thoughts on the subject. Not entirely sure how to express myself without pouring my feelings down, without crying on my keyboard, on the book which currently sits on my laps. You have to feel it yourself before understanding where I'm coming, but if you have indeed come across such a feeling, just know you are far from alone in this situation. Tricky situation. I know the pain of not putting words into my feelings, so if you are having issues with it, talk to someone!
"Ghost
It happens. they forget the sound of your voice, the shape of
your eyes, and the curve of your smile. When you left, you
tried to leave traces of yourself behind. But your smell on their
sweater eventually fades, and your things in their drawers get
pushed to the back, and suddenly you aren't real anymore.
So you are replaced with someone who is. You are a ghost, a
shadow, only a memory. So much that you wonder if you even
existed to them at all." - Courtney Peppernell
~Bella
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Wednesday, 25 April 2018
Thursday, 13 April 2017
Does Age Should Matter? (2)
Age... An issue or nothing more than a simple number?
When you build a friendship, you don't automatically ask the person for their age? Not that you care much if they are 8 years older than you or not. Does age matter when you are building a friendship? No, not really, you don't personally go and ask people's age, but when it comes to a relationship, stable, serious relationship with a partner that you love and respect, somehow, you make a much bigger deal about ages. Don't take it personally, some people don't look at the age but how mature someone is.
From my own experience and seeing other's, I can tell you that age shouldn't matter at all, you could be 30 and act like a 60-year-old person, or be 45 years of age and act like a teenager. Maturity should matter though!
Now, I know how difficult it can be when you are in your early 20's and looking for stability in your life. I'm in that situation, and it's not fun at all. People your own age view things differently than you so you get along with older people... Normal and quite frankly alright. Age doesn't matter if you can get along with someone older than you.Yet, the situation gets slightly complex when feelings rush in...
In a relationship, not everyone will agree with me, some will judge the person. Imagine you are 22 and they are only 19. The age could be quite problematic if you are interested in going out in bars to get a drink or two with friends, you won't be able to take your partner with you, the underage could be a slight issue for some people! Then there is always the friends telling you, "You could do better."
Next, there are the other issues such as the "label". The term "Cougar" given to older women who are with younger men. Not fun to be described as such, our society has grown so much over years, centuries, we would think people are less judgmental, but sadly, we haven't changed. Another issue would be the siblings, younger ones, commenting to make sure you get the drift of what they are trying to tell you. Sarcasm is great but also quite sneaky! There's some truth in every sarcastic comment!
Then, there is the patience...
You can't expect to be on the same page all the time, especially when there is a big age gap between the both of you. Patience is a skill that must be conquered fast in order to keep the relationship stable. Your patience will be put to test as soon as the relationship grows. You both won't have the same schedule, leaving you both less time to see one another. Life gets in the way, but so is work! You will have to manage your patience, not every day will be the same and routine does set upon a relationship, unless you make it excited!
It's an agree to disagree situation!
To me, love isn't a number, it's a feeling that should be felt! You could be 5 to 10 years older and I would be alright with it. Now I have limits, I wouldn't be able to be with a person who is my parent's age! I wouldn't have much in common and I'm personally ain't attracted. I know many people who would prefer way older people for stability and maturity! Again it's an agree to disagree situation which only can be determined by your own opinion.
Age shouldn't define your feelings towards another human being, your feelings should be determined on how you feel towards the other person!
"I believe that two people are connected at the heart, and it doesn't matter what you do, or who you are, or where you live; there are no boundaries or barriers if two people are destined to be together." - Julia Roberts
~Bella
When you build a friendship, you don't automatically ask the person for their age? Not that you care much if they are 8 years older than you or not. Does age matter when you are building a friendship? No, not really, you don't personally go and ask people's age, but when it comes to a relationship, stable, serious relationship with a partner that you love and respect, somehow, you make a much bigger deal about ages. Don't take it personally, some people don't look at the age but how mature someone is.From my own experience and seeing other's, I can tell you that age shouldn't matter at all, you could be 30 and act like a 60-year-old person, or be 45 years of age and act like a teenager. Maturity should matter though!
Now, I know how difficult it can be when you are in your early 20's and looking for stability in your life. I'm in that situation, and it's not fun at all. People your own age view things differently than you so you get along with older people... Normal and quite frankly alright. Age doesn't matter if you can get along with someone older than you.Yet, the situation gets slightly complex when feelings rush in...
In a relationship, not everyone will agree with me, some will judge the person. Imagine you are 22 and they are only 19. The age could be quite problematic if you are interested in going out in bars to get a drink or two with friends, you won't be able to take your partner with you, the underage could be a slight issue for some people! Then there is always the friends telling you, "You could do better."
Next, there are the other issues such as the "label". The term "Cougar" given to older women who are with younger men. Not fun to be described as such, our society has grown so much over years, centuries, we would think people are less judgmental, but sadly, we haven't changed. Another issue would be the siblings, younger ones, commenting to make sure you get the drift of what they are trying to tell you. Sarcasm is great but also quite sneaky! There's some truth in every sarcastic comment!
Then, there is the patience...
You can't expect to be on the same page all the time, especially when there is a big age gap between the both of you. Patience is a skill that must be conquered fast in order to keep the relationship stable. Your patience will be put to test as soon as the relationship grows. You both won't have the same schedule, leaving you both less time to see one another. Life gets in the way, but so is work! You will have to manage your patience, not every day will be the same and routine does set upon a relationship, unless you make it excited!
It's an agree to disagree situation!
To me, love isn't a number, it's a feeling that should be felt! You could be 5 to 10 years older and I would be alright with it. Now I have limits, I wouldn't be able to be with a person who is my parent's age! I wouldn't have much in common and I'm personally ain't attracted. I know many people who would prefer way older people for stability and maturity! Again it's an agree to disagree situation which only can be determined by your own opinion.
Age shouldn't define your feelings towards another human being, your feelings should be determined on how you feel towards the other person!
"I believe that two people are connected at the heart, and it doesn't matter what you do, or who you are, or where you live; there are no boundaries or barriers if two people are destined to be together." - Julia Roberts
~Bella
Monday, 26 September 2016
Psych 101... Love, Listening to your heart, continue...
JOHN LEE'S SIX STYLES OF LOVE
John Lee believed the different styles of love were similar to the rules of a color wheel. Much like the way a color wheel features three primary colors, Lee believed that love could be broken down into three basic primary styles. These are:
In this 2004 theory, Robert Sternberg proposed that love could be broken down into three parts: intimacy, passion, and commitment.
John Lee believed the different styles of love were similar to the rules of a color wheel. Much like the way a color wheel features three primary colors, Lee believed that love could be broken down into three basic primary styles. These are:- Eros: Loving the ideal of a person both physically and emotionally.
- Ludos: A type of love that is played like a game or conquest (and might result in many partners at one time).
- Storge: Love that stems from a friendship over time.
Just like the primary colors of a color wheel can be combined and create complimentary colors, so too can the primary love styles. The result is three secondary styles of love:
- Mania: A combination of Eros and Ludos, Mania is a style of love that is obsessive. This includes emotional highs and lows, jealousy, and very possessive feelings.
- Pragma: A combination of Ludos and Storge, Pragma is a love that is practical. Lovers go into the situation with the hopes of reaching their final goal. Expectations of the relationship are thought about practically and realistically.
- Agape: A combination of Eros and Storge, Agape is a love that is all-encompassing and selfless
ROBERT STERNBERG'S TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE
In this 2004 theory, Robert Sternberg proposed that love could be broken down into three parts: intimacy, passion, and commitment.- Intimacy: Closeness, supporting one another, sharing with one another, and feeling loved.
- Passion: Feelings of sexual arousal and attraction, and euphoria. This is what drives two individuals together.
- Commitment: The desire to remain loyal to another person and stay in a long-term relationship.
From these three components, seven different combinations can be created. The easiest way to understand this is by looking at it as a triangle. In the triangle, intimacy, passion, and commitment are the vertices, and the seven combinations are the connections between these vertices.
Alternatively, here is another way to look at it:
- Liking or Friendship: This represents a friendship where there are closeness and a strong bond, but there is not any passion or commitment present.
- Infatuation or Limerance: This is what a person feels when he or she experiences "love at first sight." Because there is no commitment or intimacy, infatuation can be fleeting.
- Empty Love: This is when a love has lost intimacy and passion, but there is still a strong commitment between the two people.
- Romantic Love: Romantic love features intimacy and passion, meaning there are sexual arousal and an emotional bond, but there is a lack of commitment.
- Companionate Love: This is a type of love where passion does not exist or no longer exists, but there is still a great commitment and deep affection for one another. This type of love is found among family members, close friends, and can even be found in marriages.
- Fatuous Love: This is a type of love that only features passion and commitment, but lacks intimacy. An example of fatuous love is a brief or impulsive marriage.
- Consummate Love: This is the ideal form of love, and it features intimacy, passion, and commitment. Sternberg claimed that once consummate love was achieved, it would be even harder to maintain and that it may not be permanent. If for example, passion becomes lost with the passage of time, then the consummate love would turn into companionate love.
During the lifespan of a relationship, Sternberg believed that the balance between intimacy, passion, and commitment would shift. Understanding the three components of love and the seven types can help couples recognize what they need to improve upon, what they should avoid, and even when it might be time to end the relationship.
" The purpose of psychology is to give us a completely different idea of the things we know best." - Paul Valery
~Bella
Friday, 19 August 2016
Who's that girl.. Who's that girl... It's... Jess
If you didn't see where I was going with the title of this post, you certainly don't know about the TV show "New Girl"...
It's been on the air for quite some time now, since 2011, and it has conquered my heart with a bit of hilarious, sweet, life lessons. I know I've talked about F.R.I.E.N.D.S. but this is a new series that I enjoy watching!
Jess, a young, eccentric school teacher living with three completely different guys makes me, at least, wondering and teach me a lot of life itself as well as love.
Here're some life and love lessons that I learned throughout the show!
Having periods can be described well!
It's been on the air for quite some time now, since 2011, and it has conquered my heart with a bit of hilarious, sweet, life lessons. I know I've talked about F.R.I.E.N.D.S. but this is a new series that I enjoy watching!
Jess, a young, eccentric school teacher living with three completely different guys makes me, at least, wondering and teach me a lot of life itself as well as love.
Here're some life and love lessons that I learned throughout the show!
Having periods can be described well!
You can have that cocky moment once in a while, it doesn't hurt!
Mistakes are part of life and Winston knows!
Breakups...
Being different is fun don't hide who you are...
You are on this planet for a reason so make the best out of it!
Usually, I don't fall in love with TV shows but this one reminds me of F.R.I.E.N.D.S.
It's by far one of the most funniest show out there and people should watch it! If you don't, you are missing out! Because of this show, I learned to give second chances, even though it's not granted to everyone, I try my hardest to make exceptions.
This show cannot get old, you cannot find an easy way to just forget about it, it's just not possible! You laugh, you cry, you feel guilty, you experience so many emotions by watching it that I don't think you can be mentally ready to say goodbye to it! I hope it goes on for a long time! Without it, I would have been a complete disaster after my breakup!
"I like being weird." -Jess
~Bella
Monday, 23 May 2016
Even from far there's always an European by my side...
As I mentioned in a previous post, I have a friend/twin back in Italy who is like two years older than me, but that doesn't stop us from being amazing... I know it is far, an entire ocean separating us, and yet we find a way to stay close to each other, kind of, in our own ways. Thank you mostly for Whatsapp and Skype!
Being two hopeless romantics, who happens to help one another, smile even when mad at each other is what one may call a strong bond.
Let me tell you all about our friendship because how far as being funny, it's also sweet!
We've known each other for quite some time now, more than a year for sure, and still laugh at our stupidity. We both love soccer and yet we managed to hate each other on the fact that we love two different teams, I'm a Juventus fan and he's more a Torino fan... We ALL know that Juventus is way better than Torino, I mean they are both from Torino (Turin), but my team is better! And I don't miss an opportunity to tease him about it, deep down he loves it ;). I must say I really enjoy showing him my Juventus scarf, it's amazing and warm... And hurtful to his eyes. Ha-ha
Our bond is usually really strong when it comes to EVERYTHING! The sweet messages, and the truth being said, I don't think you can ask anything else. I mean, who wouldn't want to receive a message saying "Sei la cosa più dolce che mi sia mai capitata." Which roughly means, " You are the sweetest thing that ever happened to me." How can you stop talking to someone who is sweet and there for you? It's impossible!
A few weeks ago, I managed to get worried about him, to the point where I got really angry, and still to this day want to slap him for making me worried sick! When two people are far from each other, it's easy to get worried, so if you are reading this, don't be mad... I just care! We even disappointed each other... Hey, we all make mistakes, I'm still an angel with a little devil inside, it won't be coming out soon, no worries.
What's funny about our friendship is that even from a long distance we know exactly how the other person is feeling. I know it's sounds odd, but let me tell you, he knows when something is wrong with me, but he won't push me to tell him what's up. Which somehow makes me smile quite big, I don't need to tell him much, he knows...
Yesterday, Sunday 22nd of May, we skyped for about an hour, laughing and talking about pretty much everything. It was passed two in the morning for him, oh but let me share how energetic he was! After telling me how many coffees he had during the day, I understood why he couldn't stay put. Behind the Italian accent and the way he talks with his hands... I couldn't stop laughing! I'm used to hearing his very cute accent, but I love how he makes tiny mistakes when he speaks English. No matter how hard I try not to laugh, sometimes I can't hold it in, he will look for certain words forever, and if I don't figure it out, he will just drop the subject or just say it in Italian. Lucky him, I'm not too horrible when it comes to understanding it, reading is easier, though!
So, usually I eat something during our video chats, I'm not sure why, but I always have something in my mouth, either candy or just cookies, but yesterday beside my very tired face and my messy hair, nothing much happened. I was not such a great mood, mostly depressed, and didn't really feel like talking about myself, so he ended up making me laugh without doing anything. By the way, have you ever had trouble zipping a jacket? Because he did! Me, being sarcastic, offered a hand, I couldn't stop laughing, he couldn't zip his jacket, and even took two minutes to finally zip it up. What a great look, though! I really liked that jacket!
Friendships are easy, and you know you can count on certain ones to make you smile. Fights end quickly, and you may end up laughing at nothing. Even yesterday, I'm not sure if I was making a face or not, as he often says that I have millions of facial expressions, he was laughing and trying to imitate me. Apparently he has a new favorite face, the one I look mad, but not like crazy mad, just slightly frowning and looking at him like "What is wrong with you"... Santa Cleopatra, it's hard to imitate my facial expressions and I end up laughing at him if he does try. The best part is that no matter how bad you may look, he always says "You're beautiful". Honestly, it's a boost of confidence that rush in, and I cannot complain!
To end this post, I want to thank him for everything that he has been doing for me, from being serious to stupid. Yes, he is blond, dirty blond, but he is far from stupid. I just love to tease him... Just like I love to be myself in front of him. I love how I pick up on his accent and end up saying his sayings like " Don't say baloney". It's part of my daily speech. I have come up with the weirdest expressions ever and if I say it in front of an American, they look at me like I'm an alien. Like the one he said yesterday, it's not the first time I heard it because I know I've used it before but " I have a fresh brain." I'm sure Americans have a similar expression, but this one, come on, it must be Italian expressions. It's funny, but I have to thank him for that! If you are still reading this post, you have all the credits!
Little side note... There's so much to talk about, that I highly think I'm going to have to post quite a lot about our strong bonds, and there'll be other post about my friend and myself. So don't think it's the end because it's not :).
" ... Strong bonds are forged in high emotional temperatures. " -Dervla Murphy
~Bella
Being two hopeless romantics, who happens to help one another, smile even when mad at each other is what one may call a strong bond.
Let me tell you all about our friendship because how far as being funny, it's also sweet!
We've known each other for quite some time now, more than a year for sure, and still laugh at our stupidity. We both love soccer and yet we managed to hate each other on the fact that we love two different teams, I'm a Juventus fan and he's more a Torino fan... We ALL know that Juventus is way better than Torino, I mean they are both from Torino (Turin), but my team is better! And I don't miss an opportunity to tease him about it, deep down he loves it ;). I must say I really enjoy showing him my Juventus scarf, it's amazing and warm... And hurtful to his eyes. Ha-ha
Our bond is usually really strong when it comes to EVERYTHING! The sweet messages, and the truth being said, I don't think you can ask anything else. I mean, who wouldn't want to receive a message saying "Sei la cosa più dolce che mi sia mai capitata." Which roughly means, " You are the sweetest thing that ever happened to me." How can you stop talking to someone who is sweet and there for you? It's impossible! A few weeks ago, I managed to get worried about him, to the point where I got really angry, and still to this day want to slap him for making me worried sick! When two people are far from each other, it's easy to get worried, so if you are reading this, don't be mad... I just care! We even disappointed each other... Hey, we all make mistakes, I'm still an angel with a little devil inside, it won't be coming out soon, no worries.
What's funny about our friendship is that even from a long distance we know exactly how the other person is feeling. I know it's sounds odd, but let me tell you, he knows when something is wrong with me, but he won't push me to tell him what's up. Which somehow makes me smile quite big, I don't need to tell him much, he knows...
Yesterday, Sunday 22nd of May, we skyped for about an hour, laughing and talking about pretty much everything. It was passed two in the morning for him, oh but let me share how energetic he was! After telling me how many coffees he had during the day, I understood why he couldn't stay put. Behind the Italian accent and the way he talks with his hands... I couldn't stop laughing! I'm used to hearing his very cute accent, but I love how he makes tiny mistakes when he speaks English. No matter how hard I try not to laugh, sometimes I can't hold it in, he will look for certain words forever, and if I don't figure it out, he will just drop the subject or just say it in Italian. Lucky him, I'm not too horrible when it comes to understanding it, reading is easier, though!
So, usually I eat something during our video chats, I'm not sure why, but I always have something in my mouth, either candy or just cookies, but yesterday beside my very tired face and my messy hair, nothing much happened. I was not such a great mood, mostly depressed, and didn't really feel like talking about myself, so he ended up making me laugh without doing anything. By the way, have you ever had trouble zipping a jacket? Because he did! Me, being sarcastic, offered a hand, I couldn't stop laughing, he couldn't zip his jacket, and even took two minutes to finally zip it up. What a great look, though! I really liked that jacket!
Friendships are easy, and you know you can count on certain ones to make you smile. Fights end quickly, and you may end up laughing at nothing. Even yesterday, I'm not sure if I was making a face or not, as he often says that I have millions of facial expressions, he was laughing and trying to imitate me. Apparently he has a new favorite face, the one I look mad, but not like crazy mad, just slightly frowning and looking at him like "What is wrong with you"... Santa Cleopatra, it's hard to imitate my facial expressions and I end up laughing at him if he does try. The best part is that no matter how bad you may look, he always says "You're beautiful". Honestly, it's a boost of confidence that rush in, and I cannot complain!
To end this post, I want to thank him for everything that he has been doing for me, from being serious to stupid. Yes, he is blond, dirty blond, but he is far from stupid. I just love to tease him... Just like I love to be myself in front of him. I love how I pick up on his accent and end up saying his sayings like " Don't say baloney". It's part of my daily speech. I have come up with the weirdest expressions ever and if I say it in front of an American, they look at me like I'm an alien. Like the one he said yesterday, it's not the first time I heard it because I know I've used it before but " I have a fresh brain." I'm sure Americans have a similar expression, but this one, come on, it must be Italian expressions. It's funny, but I have to thank him for that! If you are still reading this post, you have all the credits!
Little side note... There's so much to talk about, that I highly think I'm going to have to post quite a lot about our strong bonds, and there'll be other post about my friend and myself. So don't think it's the end because it's not :).
" ... Strong bonds are forged in high emotional temperatures. " -Dervla Murphy
~Bella
Saturday, 21 May 2016
Paper... Snow...A ghost...
You've guessed it, it's Joey from F.R.I.E.N.D.S!!!!
Besides movies, I love TV shows, especially F.R.I.E.N.D.S, it's an old tv show, yes, but one of the best ones out there!
I've watched every single episode more than four times. It's a great way to escape reality, and it's an amazing, life lesson show! You learn how to grow up, learn about jobs, romance, depression, babies, families, friends... And a lot of heartbreaks! It got me through so many desperate times, it's always a good way to go if you want to laugh!
Here are 10 life lessons from F.R.I.E.N.D.S:
1. Good friends are priceless!
Look at all six of them, always helping one another, and being there for each other...
2. Always eat the rest of the cheesecake!
Cheesecake is delicious, so don't try and finish it later, you'll regret it!
3.Always think before you speak!
This one must be the most common life lesson out there, but I learned that lesson from FRIENDS.
4.Dance like no one is looking!!!
Don't ever let any judgments bother you from doing anything you want. Look at Ross and Monica, it was, let's be honest, embarrassing.
5. When you go have a fake tan, don't bother counting MISSISSIPPI seconds!
Unless you want to go from paper white to dark chocolate, go ahead, feel free to count Mississippi seconds! It will be a good laugh to others for sure!
6. Enjoy the little things in life.
Just because it's tiny, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy and be happy about it. Look at Joey and Chandler with their comfy chairs...
7. Always stay young!
We all grow up at some point, but do we have to give up the bubble wrap? Come on, it's fun... :)
8. Breakups are hard and painful!
The pain is real and Rachel shows us exactly how it is... Just plain painful.
9. Never cheat!
Not even on a break! Like honestly? Really? Ross made a mistake and look what happened! Just because you are on a break doesn't mean you can go and play around. Be true to the one you love or else you can say goodbye to them!
10. Last lesson for this post at least... Communicate! Please talk to one another! You might end up learning a lot from each other, and it fixes problems.
F.R.I.E.N.D.S had been on the air from 1994 to 2004, and even though I used to watch it in French, I've always loved it! This show helped me with my English, helped me throughout breakups, helped me understand how people may act, it such a great show to know what real life is like, that you just want to watch every episode multiple times!
And the best part is the song! " I'll be there for you..." Santa Cleopatra... It gets stuck in your head but hey at least it's not that stupid potato flew around my room song...
If you don't like the show, don't bother being my friend, it won't work! I don't need extra negativity in my life... I'm sorry.
"Welcome to the real world. It sucks. You're gonna love it!" - Monica Geller, F.R.I.E.N.D.S
~Bella
Besides movies, I love TV shows, especially F.R.I.E.N.D.S, it's an old tv show, yes, but one of the best ones out there!
I've watched every single episode more than four times. It's a great way to escape reality, and it's an amazing, life lesson show! You learn how to grow up, learn about jobs, romance, depression, babies, families, friends... And a lot of heartbreaks! It got me through so many desperate times, it's always a good way to go if you want to laugh!
Here are 10 life lessons from F.R.I.E.N.D.S:
1. Good friends are priceless!
Look at all six of them, always helping one another, and being there for each other...
2. Always eat the rest of the cheesecake!
Cheesecake is delicious, so don't try and finish it later, you'll regret it!
3.Always think before you speak!
This one must be the most common life lesson out there, but I learned that lesson from FRIENDS.
Don't ever let any judgments bother you from doing anything you want. Look at Ross and Monica, it was, let's be honest, embarrassing.
5. When you go have a fake tan, don't bother counting MISSISSIPPI seconds!
Unless you want to go from paper white to dark chocolate, go ahead, feel free to count Mississippi seconds! It will be a good laugh to others for sure!
6. Enjoy the little things in life.
Just because it's tiny, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy and be happy about it. Look at Joey and Chandler with their comfy chairs...
7. Always stay young!
We all grow up at some point, but do we have to give up the bubble wrap? Come on, it's fun... :)
8. Breakups are hard and painful!The pain is real and Rachel shows us exactly how it is... Just plain painful.
9. Never cheat!
Not even on a break! Like honestly? Really? Ross made a mistake and look what happened! Just because you are on a break doesn't mean you can go and play around. Be true to the one you love or else you can say goodbye to them!
10. Last lesson for this post at least... Communicate! Please talk to one another! You might end up learning a lot from each other, and it fixes problems.
F.R.I.E.N.D.S had been on the air from 1994 to 2004, and even though I used to watch it in French, I've always loved it! This show helped me with my English, helped me throughout breakups, helped me understand how people may act, it such a great show to know what real life is like, that you just want to watch every episode multiple times!
And the best part is the song! " I'll be there for you..." Santa Cleopatra... It gets stuck in your head but hey at least it's not that stupid potato flew around my room song...
If you don't like the show, don't bother being my friend, it won't work! I don't need extra negativity in my life... I'm sorry.
"Welcome to the real world. It sucks. You're gonna love it!" - Monica Geller, F.R.I.E.N.D.S
~Bella
Wednesday, 18 May 2016
Is that one fake?
I never liked talking about types of people, but this one actually really gets me...
Types of friends!
First, let's take the definition of the dictionary...
" A person who you like and enjoy being with, a person who helps or supports someone or something (such as a cause or charity)"
I'm not disagreeing with the dictionary's definition, but I've got my own!
A friend is someone you can count on if you are in trouble, a person that has your back no matter what, who doesn't judge you, or talk behind your back!
Now I've realized throughout the years that friends come and goes. There're multiple types of friends as well... Good ones and bad ones...
Here are 8 types of friends I've seen throughout my life (I'm still young, but it doesn't mean much)
1.That friend who always happen to take photos of EVERYTHING!
Let's be honest we all have that one friend that takes everything on pictures or videos just to post it on social media. Those ones... They get on my nerves!
2. The party animal friend...
This is one of those friends that only wants to party, don't get me wrong, we should all have that one friend. But if you want to be serious, give up now, it's not that friend you want if you want to have a serious conversation.
3.The "I'm lost" friend!
I've had to deal with one in Vegas, last year, while at a conference. We were at a big hotel in Last Vegas, looking for the exit. We only had to retrieve our steps, not hard, but for yes, it was a nightmare! She was getting lost, if I wasn't there, she would have gotten stuck in the bloody hotel.
4.The never shut up friend!
I'm not complaining about you talking, but there's always that one person who never happens to know when to stop talking! You cannot place one single word into a conversation, that person does all the talking!
5.The phone call friend
I'm not much a talker, so when that one friend keeps calling you, but never text, Santa Cleopatra, let's have mercy! They are the most annoying people! A text can save a lot of time!
6.The one that always eat but never seem to get any fat on...
I'm far from jealous of you (I don't get fat easily), but please don't brag about it, not everyone is like you. Have some compassion!
7. The friend that only talks to you whenever they need something!
Alright, this is one of those people that are friends with you because you have some interest that may be good for them! They only want you close to them so they can take advantage of you. I'm far from being a fan of those people! Please back off if you are one of those people! We don't need that negativity in our lives.
And finally 8... That one friend who always have those stupid jokes!
I don't mind jokes, but I take a lot of it seriously and personally. I cannot take a joke and laugh it, I don't know, maybe it's just me, I've got a different humour than Americans so it might be the "why". Then again, some people just take it to the next level...
There's obviously a lot more type of friends, but these are the ones I encountered a lot more! Trust me when I say that you cannot believe how many friends are actually fake. The only way you might figure out who is nice and who isn't is for you to be in huge trouble. Then you'll see who's there for you!
"The language of friendship is not words but meanings." - Henry David Thoreau
Types of friends!
First, let's take the definition of the dictionary...
" A person who you like and enjoy being with, a person who helps or supports someone or something (such as a cause or charity)"
I'm not disagreeing with the dictionary's definition, but I've got my own!
A friend is someone you can count on if you are in trouble, a person that has your back no matter what, who doesn't judge you, or talk behind your back!
Now I've realized throughout the years that friends come and goes. There're multiple types of friends as well... Good ones and bad ones...
Here are 8 types of friends I've seen throughout my life (I'm still young, but it doesn't mean much)
1.That friend who always happen to take photos of EVERYTHING!
Let's be honest we all have that one friend that takes everything on pictures or videos just to post it on social media. Those ones... They get on my nerves!
2. The party animal friend...
This is one of those friends that only wants to party, don't get me wrong, we should all have that one friend. But if you want to be serious, give up now, it's not that friend you want if you want to have a serious conversation.
3.The "I'm lost" friend!
I've had to deal with one in Vegas, last year, while at a conference. We were at a big hotel in Last Vegas, looking for the exit. We only had to retrieve our steps, not hard, but for yes, it was a nightmare! She was getting lost, if I wasn't there, she would have gotten stuck in the bloody hotel.
4.The never shut up friend!
I'm not complaining about you talking, but there's always that one person who never happens to know when to stop talking! You cannot place one single word into a conversation, that person does all the talking!
5.The phone call friend
I'm not much a talker, so when that one friend keeps calling you, but never text, Santa Cleopatra, let's have mercy! They are the most annoying people! A text can save a lot of time!
6.The one that always eat but never seem to get any fat on...
I'm far from jealous of you (I don't get fat easily), but please don't brag about it, not everyone is like you. Have some compassion!
7. The friend that only talks to you whenever they need something!
Alright, this is one of those people that are friends with you because you have some interest that may be good for them! They only want you close to them so they can take advantage of you. I'm far from being a fan of those people! Please back off if you are one of those people! We don't need that negativity in our lives.
And finally 8... That one friend who always have those stupid jokes!
I don't mind jokes, but I take a lot of it seriously and personally. I cannot take a joke and laugh it, I don't know, maybe it's just me, I've got a different humour than Americans so it might be the "why". Then again, some people just take it to the next level...
There's obviously a lot more type of friends, but these are the ones I encountered a lot more! Trust me when I say that you cannot believe how many friends are actually fake. The only way you might figure out who is nice and who isn't is for you to be in huge trouble. Then you'll see who's there for you!
"The language of friendship is not words but meanings." - Henry David Thoreau
~Bella
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