Happy New Year...

The new year is finally here! Happy 2018 everyone!

Excited? I'm sure you are ready to start this year all fresh with plenty of more goals...

Goals? Really?

Well yes! I'm sure you all have this one little thing you want to stop doing, or start doing something?

Don't get me wrong, I never go through any of my plans for the coming year, but a lot of my acquaintances have been thinking about things to do or stop doing.

*One big goal, one I've been hearing for the past month is...
"I'll stop drinking for a month"
Let's all go through a detox phase. Not a bad idea if you are one to drink every night or day. A month may not seem a lot, and if you are ready for round 2, please do it for as long as you can!

*The other goal I've been hearing almost as much as the drinking goal is,
" I will go to the gym every day!"
Please, don't put too much pressure on yourself, baby. Every day is a lot especially if you haven't gone to check the gym out in a while. Take it slow and steady! Twice or three times is already enough, baby steps!

*One more common one... 
"I swear, I'll make myself more available to meeting new people." 
Sorry to break it to you, but unless that is what you truly want, it will be nearly impossible to achieve especially if you have social anxiety. You will always find an incredible excuse to escape a meeting. I would know, thank you to many of my precious excuses, the ones I cannot live without! 

*"I'll smile more! I'll be happy all the time!" 
Are you trying to lie to everyone else or just yourself? You are entitled to have a bad day! A sad day! It happens! 

*"Bedtime is back on! Trust me this time, not after midnight!"
Until you pass by your bar and that will be the end of it! 

*"True love is right around the corner! I can smell it!" 
Please, enlight me on how you are managing to smell it! I want the same thing!

*"I'll show you my fashion! It will be amazing!"
Sadly, not everyone will agree with what you are wearing! Not everyone can have the same taste in fashion, what could be amazing to you may not be amazing to someone else! 

*"I'm going to start saving money!"
Before you or anyone can do that, it's called getting yourself out of debt, then... Sure, save all you want!

*"It's the year I need to adopt a cute puppy!"
Are you ready for such engagement? Did you ask yourself all possible questions? 

*" This year is the year I'll finally know how to cook pasta!"
If you can't make pasta in the first place, I'm sorry but there's little hope for you in the cooking department! 

Obviously, I'm being negative cause I don't believe new year resolutions/ goals are needed! If it works for you, go for it! I hope I gave you ideas on what you could start doing better or want to do. 
For me, it's simple, each year is the same, try not to fall for anyone... And each year, I get my heart broken and broken and broken... Funny! I don't seem to have learned any lessons! Maybe this year I'll either give up on any love or find the real one! 

Meanwhile, 

HAPPY NEW YEAR YOUR SAVAGES! Go enjoy this year like it's your last! Don't waste your precious time overthinking about negativity! Try and smile all you want, don't forget about being yourself!

"Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good one." - Brad Paisley

~Bella

Take it or leave it...

Have you ever tried to give yourself a good talk? 

If you have tried once before, you'll know how it just does not work. It's terrible to admit, but it is the truth. Giving yourself some words of encouragement doesn't work this easily. 
"Oh, don't cry, not in public. You are all good, no need to cry over something this little."  Or "Don't give up. You are pretty enough to a boyfriend." Or "Remember there's always tomorrow." 
Who are you kidding? Deep down we know we are hurting, we want to give up, we want to believe the words we are telling ourselves. But before you can listen to your own words, you may want to try and listen to other's advice. 
When you have learned it, then, you may found it easier to listen to yourself. Now that said, listening to our own advice is difficult no matter how big or small it is. 
When I first started getting interested in psychology, I learned plenty in self-confidence. Obviously, I never took much of my own advice, but I did end up helping people. Psychology is fascinating in its own particular way, and when I first tried to give myself some words of advice, I heard them but didn't take the effort to listen to them. They were just simple words spoken by me, heard by me. A mistake which still to this day is highly regretful. After a few years, I came up with the "genius" plan... Advice to my future self. It's rather popular and it's quite resourceful. I ended up listening to myself, only a little more than before... 
Here is a couple of advice I came up with which may be useful to you, reader... 

I. Keep dreaming
What's better, dreams or reality? You can be anyone you wish when you dream while the reality is just you. The good news is if you are determined enough, you have the capacity of developing these dreams and make them a reality. 

II. Remember who raised you. 
It's simple to forget and not talk to your parents/family member especially if an argument breaks out, blaming the person close to you... But at the end of the day, who was there for you, raised you? And blood relatives aren't always there for you! I should know. 

III. Anything could happen, any second. 
That's right, we do not know what the future holds. We don't know if we are going to be alive tomorrow or not. So make today count, live like it's your last day. 

IV. It's never too late to apologize
Forgiving is important, but in order to forgive one has to apologize first. Sadly, not many of us found the courage to apologize to the ones who deserve it. If you have the chance to do so, give yourself the opportunity to say, " I'm sorry."  You have no idea how much a simple apology can do to an entire situation, it may impact someone a great deal. 

V. Think of the future, not the past! 
What can you do to change the past? Not much right? But what about the future? If you are thinking about past failures, please do yourself a huge favour and stop right there! I said it, STOP! The past has been written, and cannot be rewritten. The future, on the other hand, is freshly new and it does need some writing so go ahead and begin your journey! Move forward not backward. 

VI. Never stop asking questions
If kids do it, it's for a reason! It may be annoying over time but this is how you get knowledge, curiosity! The beauty of it all is that there is absolutely no age to learn something new and exciting. Learning is essential, it makes you grow as a person. 

VII. Don't compare your life or yourself to someone else's 
We are unique, there is no one exactly like you so why bother comparing yourself to your next door neighbor? Just because they seem to have the perfect doesn't make it true. Live for yourself, live your life and not someone else's. 

VIII. Accept rejection
You won't be liked by everybody and not everyone will agree with your opinion. Rejection is bound to happen at some point, but don't worry you aren't alone going through it. Everyone feels rejection in their life. 

IX. You are not better than everyone else
Who made you better? Who told you, you were inferior to others? What gave you the right to determine this? Well, let me be brutally honest with you! You are just as important as your crazy neighbor, your old high school math teacher, or a homeless person who's addiction to heroin is becoming too much. There's no life more important than the other. Remember we all came from somewhere, we are all human no matter what! 

And the final piece of advice of the day... 

X. Trust that feeling of yours. 
Sounds idiotic when written down, but it's the truth. I listen to my feelings, my guts. It never failed me; when I do not get a good vibe or I don't like a person in a second of seeing them, it's because I get a bad vibe which doesn't make me want to know them. Give your "guts" some credit. 
Advice to future self is useful especially when you look back on the list later on in life. It's never too late to ameliorate yourself; give yourself the opportunity to listen to your own words, voice. 

"Listen to your own voice, your own would, too many people listen to the noise of the world, instead of themselves." 

~Bella 

Who's that girl.. Who's that girl... It's... Jess

If you didn't see where I was going with the title of this post, you certainly don't know about the TV show "New Girl"...

It's been on the air for quite some time now, since 2011, and it has conquered my heart with a bit of hilarious, sweet, life lessons. I know I've talked about F.R.I.E.N.D.S. but this is a new series that I enjoy watching!

Jess, a young, eccentric school teacher living with three completely different guys makes me, at least, wondering and teach me a lot of life itself as well as love. 

Here're some life and love lessons that I learned throughout the show! 

Having periods can be described well! 

You can have that cocky moment once in a while, it doesn't hurt! 

Mistakes are part of life and Winston knows! 

Breakups... 

Being different is fun don't hide who you are...

You are on this planet for a reason so make the best out of it! 

Usually, I don't fall in love with TV shows but this one reminds me of F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

It's by far one of the most funniest show out there and people should watch it! If you don't, you are missing out! Because of this show, I learned to give second chances, even though it's not granted to everyone, I try my hardest to make exceptions. 

This show cannot get old, you cannot find an easy way to just forget about it, it's just not possible! You laugh, you cry, you feel guilty, you experience so many emotions by watching it that I don't think you can be mentally ready to say goodbye to it! I hope it goes on for a long time! Without it, I would have been a complete disaster after my breakup! 

"I like being weird." -Jess

~Bella

Just movie lessons...

Last week was pretty interesting, lots had to do with "love" itself even movies were romantic! 

I ain't a fan of romantic cheesy movies that women watch for fun, but the ones I watched were rather good. Life lessons were heard and learned. 

The first movie I want to talk about is a French romantic comedy, "Amour et turbulences" or " Love is in the air". The plot of the story is simple but quite unexpected. Two young people are sitting next to each other on a plane back to Paris. They have quite a love story to tell to the passengers next to them. Even though you could say they hate each other at the beginning, you'll see that during the story it ain't true at all. 

When two people are meant for each other, they come back to one another, somehow they manage to see each other again. It could take weeks, months, years for two people to realize their mistakes and reunite again. If you want a relationship to work, you both have to sacrifice a piece of you. For example, in the movie, the guy, Antoine (in the movie), was the number one player, the one that got tired of people after two weeks. Bad reputation and worse lover. Yet, he changed, but when you see other women looking, eating him up from a distance, you tend to get jealous and the trust you may have had once, well let's just say you can say goodbye to it. He had to let go of other women to be with the one he truly loved. The other thing I learned was the communication that wasn't done in their stories. Instead, of running away, try and listen to one another, we all interpret what we say, and sometimes our interpretation is the wrong one. Listen carefully, try to understand the meaning behind what they are saying, and I promise the relationship will go a lot smoother. All it may take is a real conversation where both of you explain what they are feeling, what's bothering them... 

Next one the list of comedies is the movie, Failure to Launch, with Matthew McConaughey and Sarah Jessica Parker. It's the story of a man in his 30's who still lives with his parents, when they get tired of him staying over, they decide to hire a professional woman to make him move out of the house. 

Each person is different, each person has a story, has reasons to do certain things. For instance, the man in the movie didn't seem to want to move out because it was easier to live with his parents. But there is always some reason behind that! There again, communication would have cost cheaper than hiring someone to try and make him move out. The next lesson that doesn't help me at all at the moment is the fact that you might end up falling in love with a client of yours, it happens, it might happen to you if you have clients, ones you spend time with quite a lot. I know people who have "rules", I know I kind of do, tend to break a few of their own rules because love doesn't technically follow any protocol. 

The last movie I want to talk about is Tarzan with Alexander Skarsgard and Margot Robbie... I can't explain how much I love the actor, I always thought he was hot, it was confirmed with the movie... I don't need to give much information the plot of the movie, I'm sure plenty of you have seen it and enjoyed it. I thought they did an amazing job on putting together all the scenes and they got my emotions wrapped up rather quickly! 
They capture the love that John or Tarzan had for Jane and vice versa. They portrayed that love can make you do impossible things. The actors were so into their characters that it really showed how much love can conquer a lot more than a relationship. Love does make you do the unthinkable. If your love is strong and deep, both people won't give up and will do whatever it takes to get that love back if something was to happen. Love gives you wings to fly, it gives you such an energy that you have to let it out. You have to show the love you have to the other person! True love does exist! It might be in movies or books, but at the end of the day, where did they get the idea of such a deep, powerful love? It happens! 
Just look around! 

" The couples that are meant to be, are the ones who go through everything that is meant to tear them apart, and come out even stronger."

~Bella