The new year is finally here! Happy 2018 everyone!
Excited? I'm sure you are ready to start this year all fresh with plenty of more goals...
Goals? Really?
Well yes! I'm sure you all have this one little thing you want to stop doing, or start doing something?
Don't get me wrong, I never go through any of my plans for the coming year, but a lot of my acquaintances have been thinking about things to do or stop doing.
*One big goal, one I've been hearing for the past month is...
"I'll stop drinking for a month"
Let's all go through a detox phase. Not a bad idea if you are one to drink every night or day. A month may not seem a lot, and if you are ready for round 2, please do it for as long as you can!
*The other goal I've been hearing almost as much as the drinking goal is,
" I will go to the gym every day!"
Please, don't put too much pressure on yourself, baby. Every day is a lot especially if you haven't gone to check the gym out in a while. Take it slow and steady! Twice or three times is already enough, baby steps!
*One more common one...
"I swear, I'll make myself more available to meeting new people."
Sorry to break it to you, but unless that is what you truly want, it will be nearly impossible to achieve especially if you have social anxiety. You will always find an incredible excuse to escape a meeting. I would know, thank you to many of my precious excuses, the ones I cannot live without!
*"I'll smile more! I'll be happy all the time!"
Are you trying to lie to everyone else or just yourself? You are entitled to have a bad day! A sad day! It happens!
*"Bedtime is back on! Trust me this time, not after midnight!"
Until you pass by your bar and that will be the end of it!
*"True love is right around the corner! I can smell it!"
Please, enlight me on how you are managing to smell it! I want the same thing!
*"I'll show you my fashion! It will be amazing!"
Sadly, not everyone will agree with what you are wearing! Not everyone can have the same taste in fashion, what could be amazing to you may not be amazing to someone else!
*"I'm going to start saving money!"
Before you or anyone can do that, it's called getting yourself out of debt, then... Sure, save all you want!
*"It's the year I need to adopt a cute puppy!"
Are you ready for such engagement? Did you ask yourself all possible questions?
*" This year is the year I'll finally know how to cook pasta!"
If you can't make pasta in the first place, I'm sorry but there's little hope for you in the cooking department!
Obviously, I'm being negative cause I don't believe new year resolutions/ goals are needed! If it works for you, go for it! I hope I gave you ideas on what you could start doing better or want to do.
For me, it's simple, each year is the same, try not to fall for anyone... And each year, I get my heart broken and broken and broken... Funny! I don't seem to have learned any lessons! Maybe this year I'll either give up on any love or find the real one!
Meanwhile,
HAPPY NEW YEAR YOUR SAVAGES! Go enjoy this year like it's your last! Don't waste your precious time overthinking about negativity! Try and smile all you want, don't forget about being yourself!
"Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good one." - Brad Paisley
~Bella
Do you believe you need a thousand friends?
We as human, need friends, people to converse with because we are social creatures! Can't change that, sorry! We need others to survive, without anyone around, we may lose our mind, and that my friend isn't good news!
Studies have shown that we are at our best when we have friends. True friends!
There is a dark side of having these so-called friends, though it's typically the opposite! As you know, we don't exactly really know someone by heart, we would like to think so, but let's be real, we don't! Humans are capable of a lot of different things, murdering someone, rape, stabbing someone close in the back with words, rat you out to a teacher because you cheated on a test... We don't know people! Anything can happen, our brain is a powerful tool, it controls your moves, it will go from happy you, to jealous and destructive you in a matter of seconds. A situation can change someone's perspective on an issue or life decisions. One day, you'll be the happiest person alive with amazing friends who got your back and the next day nobody is behind you because of something you said or did. Life has obstacles, life is difficult, life is challenging! We, humans, don't fully understand how we work, but I can say that no matter what having friends has its advantages if we are careful enough about the people we let in our lives.
Real friends will try their best to make you smile over the phone, will try to ease your hard day with a good movie and pizza, they will spend five minutes to take their phones and text you just to see if you are doing okay! Real friends are the ones that will be honest, won't be scared to tell you the horrible truth about you to your face. They won't care if you are sick at home, they will call you or come to you directly. Real friends don't forget you, no matter what, they will always have your back!
A friend of mine went through a rough path, I couldn't get a hold of him for about a month, I texted him, called him, left voicemails... I went crazy on him! Told him that I was worried, no news means bad news, so I thought he only disappeared on me as what guys tend to do (at least in my case). My experience with guys disappearing on me is getting old, and to be fair, I'm sure not every guy is like that, but somehow I attract these guys! Why would it have been different for my friend? To be exact, he didn't disappear, he was at the hospital with no access to his cell phone. The anger was enormous, I couldn't believe it! He texted a few weeks ago, telling me what was going on, and I felt terrible for being so mad at him. The first thing he said was that he was happy to know that I was still caring even without receiving any messages back. I was still trying to get a hold of him, and it did kind of make him cry.
It's called friendship even from far, you can always show your support and how much you care about them! My friend was at the hospital, I didn't know anything about it, I was angry at him for not replying, I told him, felt bad afterwards, but I continued to show that I was still there on the phone trying to care and support him. If I can do that, so can you!
This works for relationships as well... Two people in love with one another, they will do anything for the person, wait patiently, start over to redo something wrong, they will listen to each other's issues, they will be there to support! That again if you are careful enough to know who to trust and not to trust! Some people show a mask, a double personality to hide who they truly are for different reasons like they are afraid the other won't like them for who they are so they pretend to like the same thing, play the same sport, go to the same library...
Being real in this time period is quite difficult, challenging if I may say! We believe what we see on social media, rumors, what the press say about the pop star who had a diet so you do the same... Society, today, is becoming a complete nightmare! We see all these beautiful people on magazines and try to be like them, to act like them for what exactly? So we can be liked by other people?
Friends don't care how you dress, how you comb your hair, what type of perfume or makeup you wear. They are your friends because of what you do, say, give, and project. It's about what's in your brain and heart, not what you pretend to be.
Do we need that many friends to survive?
In my opinion, I don't think so! Real friends aren't discovered in every household! You can have friends that are more acquaintance than your best friend. You can have hundreds of friends, sure, but how many of them can you count on if you are in big trouble? Who will come to rescue you from danger, who would take a bullet for you? I always believed that your boyfriend or girlfriend should be a best friend as well... Don't ask me why I'm sure you get the point!
Choose your friend carefully, your partner carefully! If you find and believe in one person even if it's the wrong time to become friends or lovers, don't give up on them, no matter what happens! These people deserve you, deserve your care and support as well as your love! Don't let the people that check up on you to see if you are holding up slip away from you! Start becoming determined, real friends, real partners are rare nowadays! Don't miss out on anything, we don't know what may happen tomorrow!
"My life is good because I am not passive about it. I invest in what is real. Like real people, to do real things, for the real me." - Gwyneth Paltrow.
~Bella
Who remembers their first love?
First loves are the most special love!
The one you'll never forget, the one that made your world turn upside down...
Our first love happens when we are still young, innocent, pure, and it makes the relationship just as more powerful as your real love!
It's that one love that isn't picture perfect (oh no, far from it),that may end up in heartbreaks you'll never forget about, even after years away from that person! Your feelings will be there, somewhere, hiding away, but each you'll think of your first love, these feelings come rushing out... The one you "let slip" through your fingers!
When we say first love we refer to the first time you actually felt love running through your body. The one that you cared a lot more than most people, the one that made you feel butterflies in your tummy each time they would look into your eyes...
The one that made your excitement feel more powerful than ever before!
It's the first time you don't know what you are actually doing, the one that you have no control whatsoever! The first time when you feel lost because you don't know how to not fall in love! It's that one love that you want to spend your entire life with, every moment with that one person!
First love is innocent, pure, silly, crazy, unrealistic, But then they walked away, talking all your first times with them, away. It becomes an adventure, a crazy ride through feelings, emotions,
You may be happy today, thinking you completely forgot about that person, that it is just a memory, a long lost souvenir, yet it is haunting you. Trying to recreate that powerful first love is nearly impossible, that's why it's such an amazing and yet saddest moment, feeling! No matter what you may try to do to make it happen once again, it doesn't work. What's gone is gone! Love will never feel as excited as your first one!
Now when you "look" for love , you are more cautious, trust less, become almost untouchable. The uncertainty of belonging in a love like your first made you feel like is now just a feeling of losing yourself in a cautious path. That first love made you fall, fall hard. It turned you to into this pragmatic being who weighs every possibility,
analyses every situation, believing in only what you see, thinking a million times before letting your feelings come out. It might actually end up making you wiser than you were already! More careful to what might come ahead of you! It created a hole in your sole, and it won't fill it again!
No matter how much you want that love back it just won't come around again, it will haunt you forever. Don't try to recreate that love, look ahead, stop thinking that you find that other half! If it was meant to be you would still be in that relationship!
Look ahead :)
"Your first love will always have that special place in your heart!"
~Bella
