I thought I would write 10 facts about me. Don't worry, I won't be writing about my hopeless romantic side again, I think you've got the point in an earlier post.
Knowing people can be quite complex as some would prefer to keep everything to themselves while some others may be open books, which means you know them without really having a conversation.
Getting to know someone isn't just hearing or seeing what they say or do, it's about knowing how to talk to them, learn how they may react in a situation...
In my case, this post is just ten facts about me that may be interesting to know. No promises, though. I'm very ordinary.
1. I have been living in the past.
I don't live in the present or the future, I always look back at my past, wondering tons of questions, making me wonder if I had made the right choice. It's rather annoying to be living in the past because you cannot be happy, well at least I can't. People that are living in the past hold on to memories, good and bad ones. In my case, it's not a fear of the present or the future, or having a case of nostalgia! It's only because I'm familiar with my past. Take it, however, you feel like...
2. One of my biggest phobias is abandonment.
Not the type where my parents leave me on the side of the road, but leaving me as in emotionally. To be less complicated, let me give you an example... In a breakup, I cannot deal with it, I break down, become empty, sad, depressed because it's like a version of abandonment. I'm afraid to be alone, and everyone leaving me. I know where the phobia comes from so at least it's good news, maybe one day it'll be better.
3. Each month I receive a Rolling Stone magazine.
I never subscribed to any girly magazines like whatever girls usually read. I'm into music and stories, not fashion and makeup. This magazine saved me a lot when I was traveling back and forth to Europe! No, I don't subscribe online, I feel like the touch of the paper is a lot more interesting than looking at a screen, I think I have enough of that all day.
4. Despite my love for art in general, reading and writing, I love to play video games.
Actually, last time I was at my friend's house, I finished playing The Walking Dead. This game isn't new, but the ending got me really frustrated! I couldn't deal with the fact that all my choices were bad! Like really bad! Obviously, the ending had to be sad! I think I actually played for four hours straight...
5. I may not eat a lot, and I don't eat every meal, but trust me I love food!
I think everyone loves food in general, but I've been hearing that I don't eat enough. Sadly, my stomach isn't big, I can only hold so much. No worries, I do eat, and can actually eat a lot if I really want to. Especially if it's Italian cuisine, then... You can say goodbye to me sharing my food! I'll be just like Joey Tribbiani from F.R.I.E.N.D.S. I don't share my food!
6. I'm neither an introvert nor an extrovert, I'm in between!
I can be really shy, and prefer to stay in my room, alone without no one to bother me. Sometimes I'm the complete opposite! I'm more an outgoing person, who loves to be around people, drink, and party, enjoying myself. I tend to stay in my bubble away from new things because I'm scared. Then sometimes I come out of my comfort zone...
A little note of advice: Don't be afraid to be who you are, be an introvert or extrovert or both... Be sure that everyone is either one of those three!
7. I have a bad case of anxiety!
I might write a whole post about the case... So I won't go into much, details, but I can tell you that it is keeping me from living a perfectly normal life. It keeps me from doing things I should be doing. It's a part of me that controls a part of my life.
8. I tend to take responsibilities for other's mistakes.
I apologize and see when I'm wrong. I have no problems stating I was wrong if I am indeed wrong. It might be hard to get it out of me, but you will get a meaningful apology. If something goes the opposite direction, and something bad happens, I will take the fall and take full on responsibility for everyone. Not a quality! I'm not entirely sure why I always take the blame for people, maybe I'm just too nice... If you have an idea please comment below, I would love some insight!
9. I pick up on accents rather quickly.
I have to write a post about this as well... It's hilarious to some people like my friend Ryan and well, Tyler as well, think I sound like Hermione Granger from Harry Potter! If you are reading this,Ryan, thank you, now I got it stuck in my head and I try my best to keep the British accent under surveillance. It's bugging me to not have a French accent anymore.
10. I don't throw anything away and if I do, I've got reasons to support it.
I'm the type of person that keeps everything close to me, like a box of souvenirs but a larger one. For example, I still have a friend's shirt. I haven't talked to him in a long time, but I'm keeping his shirt. Or random papers... I've moved houses quite often, and each time I was the one with the big mess.
There you go, a few little facts about little me. I'm nothing special, just a writer who happens to be herself. No surprises... I wouldn't say I'm an open book, but I'm not going to fake a personality to please anyone.
" Finding oneself was a misnomer; a self is not found but made." - Jacques Barzun
~Bella
As I mentioned in a previous post, I have a friend/twin back in Italy who is like two years older than me, but that doesn't stop us from being amazing... I know it is far, an entire ocean separating us, and yet we find a way to stay close to each other, kind of, in our own ways. Thank you mostly for Whatsapp and Skype!
Being two hopeless romantics, who happens to help one another, smile even when mad at each other is what one may call a strong bond.
Let me tell you all about our friendship because how far as being funny, it's also sweet!
We've known each other for quite some time now, more than a year for sure, and still laugh at our stupidity. We both love soccer and yet we managed to hate each other on the fact that we love two different teams, I'm a Juventus fan and he's more a Torino fan... We ALL know that Juventus is way better than Torino, I mean they are both from Torino (Turin), but my team is better! And I don't miss an opportunity to tease him about it, deep down he loves it ;). I must say I really enjoy showing him my Juventus scarf, it's amazing and warm... And hurtful to his eyes. Ha-ha
Our bond is usually really strong when it comes to EVERYTHING! The sweet messages, and the truth being said, I don't think you can ask anything else. I mean, who wouldn't want to receive a message saying "Sei la cosa più dolce che mi sia mai capitata." Which roughly means, " You are the sweetest thing that ever happened to me." How can you stop talking to someone who is sweet and there for you? It's impossible!
A few weeks ago, I managed to get worried about him, to the point where I got really angry, and still to this day want to slap him for making me worried sick! When two people are far from each other, it's easy to get worried, so if you are reading this, don't be mad... I just care! We even disappointed each other... Hey, we all make mistakes, I'm still an angel with a little devil inside, it won't be coming out soon, no worries.
What's funny about our friendship is that even from a long distance we know exactly how the other person is feeling. I know it's sounds odd, but let me tell you, he knows when something is wrong with me, but he won't push me to tell him what's up. Which somehow makes me smile quite big, I don't need to tell him much, he knows...
Yesterday, Sunday 22nd of May, we skyped for about an hour, laughing and talking about pretty much everything. It was passed two in the morning for him, oh but let me share how energetic he was! After telling me how many coffees he had during the day, I understood why he couldn't stay put. Behind the Italian accent and the way he talks with his hands... I couldn't stop laughing! I'm used to hearing his very cute accent, but I love how he makes tiny mistakes when he speaks English. No matter how hard I try not to laugh, sometimes I can't hold it in, he will look for certain words forever, and if I don't figure it out, he will just drop the subject or just say it in Italian. Lucky him, I'm not too horrible when it comes to understanding it, reading is easier, though!
So, usually I eat something during our video chats, I'm not sure why, but I always have something in my mouth, either candy or just cookies, but yesterday beside my very tired face and my messy hair, nothing much happened. I was not such a great mood, mostly depressed, and didn't really feel like talking about myself, so he ended up making me laugh without doing anything. By the way, have you ever had trouble zipping a jacket? Because he did! Me, being sarcastic, offered a hand, I couldn't stop laughing, he couldn't zip his jacket, and even took two minutes to finally zip it up. What a great look, though! I really liked that jacket!
Friendships are easy, and you know you can count on certain ones to make you smile. Fights end quickly, and you may end up laughing at nothing. Even yesterday, I'm not sure if I was making a face or not, as he often says that I have millions of facial expressions, he was laughing and trying to imitate me. Apparently he has a new favorite face, the one I look mad, but not like crazy mad, just slightly frowning and looking at him like "What is wrong with you"... Santa Cleopatra, it's hard to imitate my facial expressions and I end up laughing at him if he does try. The best part is that no matter how bad you may look, he always says "You're beautiful". Honestly, it's a boost of confidence that rush in, and I cannot complain!
To end this post, I want to thank him for everything that he has been doing for me, from being serious to stupid. Yes, he is blond, dirty blond, but he is far from stupid. I just love to tease him... Just like I love to be myself in front of him. I love how I pick up on his accent and end up saying his sayings like " Don't say baloney". It's part of my daily speech. I have come up with the weirdest expressions ever and if I say it in front of an American, they look at me like I'm an alien. Like the one he said yesterday, it's not the first time I heard it because I know I've used it before but " I have a fresh brain." I'm sure Americans have a similar expression, but this one, come on, it must be Italian expressions. It's funny, but I have to thank him for that! If you are still reading this post, you have all the credits!
Little side note... There's so much to talk about, that I highly think I'm going to have to post quite a lot about our strong bonds, and there'll be other post about my friend and myself. So don't think it's the end because it's not :).
" ... Strong bonds are forged in high emotional temperatures. " -Dervla Murphy
~Bella
Patience... What a word!
Patience is the ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay...
To be less dictionary specific, being patience is a quality that not everyone has! I would know a lot about!
It never is easy being patient, especially under certain circumstances, but the happy news is that it's a virtue that you can work on! Isn't' it exciting?
Before I talk about me here's some tips to help you get this virtue on and that helped me a lot become less impatient!
Little one - Take a deep breath or two, it will never hurt anyone to take a few seconds to breathe deeply!
Little two- Write down everything that comes into your head. If you don't like writing, just videotape you or record yourself!
Little three- Let go of the problem, if you cannot be patient, just let go, it's that easy!
Little four- Listen to your surroundings and to yourself. That little voice in your head telling you to take it slow, listen to it!
Little five- If you are a perfectionist, just stop, it will get you nowhere! Things cannot be perfect, no one can be perfect, just learn to manage your emotions, and everything will be alright at the end.
To talk about my experience of being an impatient person I'll just share with you the time when I had to learn how to be patient.
To begin, if you don't know me, I have what you call anxiety, an overload of stress that rushes throughout your body causing, sometimes, panic attacks. Not to make up an excuse for me being impatient, it didn't help at all. I couldn't see the big picture, always looking for the tiniest issue possible, making me impatient. When I started looking after my mother's friend's boys, I had to learn how to be patient, quickly, as you may already know kids themselves are impatient. So, after learning how to listen to them, closely, and trying to explain a lot more why they would be in trouble, I've learned that it doesn't just happen with kids, you also have to give all your intention to people in general. It takes a lot of time to accomplish the listen skill part, but when you have it, oh, life is more beautiful! You can actually take a deep breath, look at the big picture, listen to your surroundings, and as Californians knows best "Take it easy".
Being patient is a virtue that not many people can actually get as I've said before it's not easy! For instance, in love, you need a great deal of patience, if you don't have it, you can say goodbye to the relationship. I'm still learning, I haven't fully got the chance to be the most patient person that is passed a certain age. See I can be very patient when it comes kids from the age of birth to 10 years old. Now, I just have to be patient with some adults in some situations. I still learn every day, and I can tell you one thing is that it is the hardest thing you can accomplish, but when it's done, you'll be proud!
"Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet."- Aristotle
~Bella
As I've mentioned in a previous post, I love Bree'Osh!
Croissants, we all know what they are, and everyone will say "Oh French pastries", but have you ever really enjoyed eating one?
Little French crescent-shaped buttery pastries have been in my life since day one. Came across so many of them that I can finally distinguish the ones that are "perfect", obviously, it's just my opinion...
Usually eaten for breakfast is also, in my opinion, a great little taste of happiness. Croissants are as simple as it gets without fillings, but you can also find them with either almond cream or if you are home, I would suggest hit it up just a little and spread some Nutella... But then again that's only my opinion, I'm just suggesting...
So let's talk about how I concluded that I found the perfect croissants... Yes, it's at my favorite little place... Bree'Osh! They have captured me with a real taste of croissants. It brings back so many memories, walking to the kitchen in the morning to the pleasant smell of buttery croissants. Yummy!
Their croissants aren't just good- looking, they are crispy, delicate and sensational! An orgasm in your mouth... It's that delicious! Pierre knows how to make croissants that aren't too buttery, let's be honest here, some croissants have too much butter, but not the ones at Bree'Osh, they have the perfect amount of butter, and that cannot be denied. You just have to go check it out for yourself! You'll see I'm far from lying! They have the most traditional croissants which are simple without any fillings (just because it's simple doesn't mean it's bad, it's actually the opposite, and you should not be afraid of simplicity), and they also make almond croissants! You should try both of them! These croissants are the best in town, but shhh let's not tell the competition about it, or else they will be jealous of how amazing Bree'Osh's croissants taste like!
I have to accept the fact that yes I'm an addict of pastries in general, but when it comes to real homemade ones... I cannot resist! If you are in love with food in general, and you want to experience a warm pastry, you should definitely go to Bree'Osh and try these unbelievable croissants! Croissants are complex but simple as well with their angelic taste that can spin you around into a tornado of flavors...
"Whoever said money can't buy you happiness has obviously not been in a bakery..."
~ Bella
You've guessed it, it's Joey from F.R.I.E.N.D.S!!!!
Besides movies, I love TV shows, especially F.R.I.E.N.D.S, it's an old tv show, yes, but one of the best ones out there!
I've watched every single episode more than four times. It's a great way to escape reality, and it's an amazing, life lesson show! You learn how to grow up, learn about jobs, romance, depression, babies, families, friends... And a lot of heartbreaks! It got me through so many desperate times, it's always a good way to go if you want to laugh!
Here are 10 life lessons from F.R.I.E.N.D.S:
1. Good friends are priceless!
Look at all six of them, always helping one another, and being there for each other...
2. Always eat the rest of the cheesecake!
Cheesecake is delicious, so don't try and finish it later, you'll regret it!
3.Always think before you speak!
This one must be the most common life lesson out there, but I learned that lesson from FRIENDS.
4.Dance like no one is looking!!!
Don't ever let any judgments bother you from doing anything you want. Look at Ross and Monica, it was, let's be honest, embarrassing.
5. When you go have a fake tan, don't bother counting MISSISSIPPI seconds!
Unless you want to go from paper white to dark chocolate, go ahead, feel free to count Mississippi seconds! It will be a good laugh to others for sure!
6. Enjoy the little things in life.
Just because it's tiny, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy and be happy about it. Look at Joey and Chandler with their comfy chairs...
7. Always stay young!
We all grow up at some point, but do we have to give up the bubble wrap? Come on, it's fun... :)
8. Breakups are hard and painful!
The pain is real and Rachel shows us exactly how it is... Just plain painful.
9. Never cheat!
Not even on a break! Like honestly? Really? Ross made a mistake and look what happened! Just because you are on a break doesn't mean you can go and play around. Be true to the one you love or else you can say goodbye to them!
10. Last lesson for this post at least... Communicate! Please talk to one another! You might end up learning a lot from each other, and it fixes problems.
F.R.I.E.N.D.S had been on the air from 1994 to 2004, and even though I used to watch it in French, I've always loved it! This show helped me with my English, helped me throughout breakups, helped me understand how people may act, it such a great show to know what real life is like, that you just want to watch every episode multiple times!
And the best part is the song! " I'll be there for you..." Santa Cleopatra... It gets stuck in your head but hey at least it's not that stupid potato flew around my room song...
If you don't like the show, don't bother being my friend, it won't work! I don't need extra negativity in my life... I'm sorry.
"Welcome to the real world. It sucks. You're gonna love it!" - Monica Geller, F.R.I.E.N.D.S
~Bella
I'm sure you know what a best friend is, right?
For as long as I could remember, we go through experiences, difficult times and there's always that one person that happens to be here for you no matter the cost. Even though I'm sure we all lost a few best friends throughout our lives, there will be that one person that comes into your life, and stays, obviously to bug you. Just kidding...
When I was a child, I had the most amazing best friend ever, she was more like a sister than anything. We would do everything together from going to the same school to spending hours playing around her family farm and help out when we could. Sadly life has downs, changes that make you lose these types of friendships. Then I came to the US... For a European coming to the US, trust me it's difficult to make friends. You have different life views, different jokes, different everything. So, 6th grade... Made a few friends, and a French girl who lived in California longer than I had, became my friend and a really close friend, even became best friends. Life continued and I lost her as well...
I could go on forever.
When you think you have an incredible friend you can count on, something dramatic happens and you lose them...
People tend to take everyone for granted, especially the ones that are close to us. Yes, you aren't alone, I, myself sometimes take granted people that love me. It's not my intention, but I still do it, realizing it too late. Do not take anything in the wrong way, I'm blaming myself as well because we all make mistakes! Best friends are here for you no matter what the cost is, they may seem harsh when they want to be serious, but at the end of the day, even after a fight, they will come back to you like nothing ever happened! They look passed your flaws, your determination of being yourself, and they don't try to change who you are!
My best friend... He might be the opposite sex, and he might live far, but trust me, I know I can count on him to tell me the truth! My best friend picks me up from the lowest possible point to a higher ground because he knows how to talk to me. I've had plenty ups and downs, couldn't really deal with anything by myself, went downhill in a matter of days, seconds, and now I own my best friend a lot! Being able to tell a person everything without being scared of judgements that will never come in between the friendship, that's just a real friendship!
This past month and a half have been a very difficult time for me, didn't know what to do, who to turn to, or even do with all these feelings that came rushing up to the surface. How many times I kept things for myself,bottling everything so I could just ignore it all, and how many times I had to call my best friend and cry over the phone asking for help because I wasn't capable of thinking straight... We think we are strong, but we always need someone close to keep your head up! I would have probably ended up doing something really stupid, something I wouldn't come back if my best friend wasn't here reassuring me everything will be ok, that I can't give up on hope. Even though I wasn't easy to talk to at the time, and might have argued many, many times, at the end, I was still listening to some advice he had given me over the phone.
I've always heard " You know who your best friend is when you are at the lowest point of your life." They were right about that! While some just don't give a f***, some actually do and don't let you go ahead that easily! They might not message you every day or weeks, but they are still here for you! They don't hurt you!
If you have a best friend, tell them how thankful you are to have them in your life. Best friends are precious and you don't want to lose them! Just know how to pick them and trust them before calling them your BFF!
" Best friends are people you don't need to talk to every single day. You don't need to talk to each other for weeks, but when you do, it's as if you'd never stopped talking."
~Bella
I never liked talking about types of people, but this one actually really gets me...
Types of friends!
First, let's take the definition of the dictionary...
" A person who you like and enjoy being with, a person who helps or supports someone or something (such as a cause or charity)"
I'm not disagreeing with the dictionary's definition, but I've got my own!
A friend is someone you can count on if you are in trouble, a person that has your back no matter what, who doesn't judge you, or talk behind your back!
Now I've realized throughout the years that friends come and goes. There're multiple types of friends as well... Good ones and bad ones...
Here are 8 types of friends I've seen throughout my life (I'm still young, but it doesn't mean much)
1.That friend who always happen to take photos of EVERYTHING!
Let's be honest we all have that one friend that takes everything on pictures or videos just to post it on social media. Those ones... They get on my nerves!
2. The party animal friend...
This is one of those friends that only wants to party, don't get me wrong, we should all have that one friend. But if you want to be serious, give up now, it's not that friend you want if you want to have a serious conversation.
3.The "I'm lost" friend!
I've had to deal with one in Vegas, last year, while at a conference. We were at a big hotel in Last Vegas, looking for the exit. We only had to retrieve our steps, not hard, but for yes, it was a nightmare! She was getting lost, if I wasn't there, she would have gotten stuck in the bloody hotel.
4.The never shut up friend!
I'm not complaining about you talking, but there's always that one person who never happens to know when to stop talking! You cannot place one single word into a conversation, that person does all the talking!
5.The phone call friend
I'm not much a talker, so when that one friend keeps calling you, but never text, Santa Cleopatra, let's have mercy! They are the most annoying people! A text can save a lot of time!
6.The one that always eat but never seem to get any fat on...
I'm far from jealous of you (I don't get fat easily), but please don't brag about it, not everyone is like you. Have some compassion!
7. The friend that only talks to you whenever they need something!
Alright, this is one of those people that are friends with you because you have some interest that may be good for them! They only want you close to them so they can take advantage of you. I'm far from being a fan of those people! Please back off if you are one of those people! We don't need that negativity in our lives.
And finally 8... That one friend who always have those stupid jokes!
I don't mind jokes, but I take a lot of it seriously and personally. I cannot take a joke and laugh it, I don't know, maybe it's just me, I've got a different humour than Americans so it might be the "why". Then again, some people just take it to the next level...
There's obviously a lot more type of friends, but these are the ones I encountered a lot more! Trust me when I say that you cannot believe how many friends are actually fake. The only way you might figure out who is nice and who isn't is for you to be in huge trouble. Then you'll see who's there for you!
"The language of friendship is not words but meanings." - Henry David Thoreau
~Bella
8. I tend to take responsibilities for other's mistakes.
10. I don't throw anything away and if I do, I've got reasons to support it. 
