Does Size Should Matter? (1)

Last month, I talked about starting a series of " Should It Matter?", and today is the first day! 
I'm excited to actually start something big like this, well for me is! 

Size! Don't start thinking about the dirty part of the size... We all know that somewhere along the way, the size of a man's private is quite important to women; now many will refuse on telling the truth as it could be disappointing to many people, men to be exact. Sadly, it is not what I'm talking about... 

Size as in someone's height. 

Have you ever come across a couple where the woman is slightly taller than the man? I know I have, frequently, and I always wondered how and why would a man prefer a taller woman? But when it comes to having the man being taller than the woman, it seems as it is just "normal", almost commonly known to be completely "normal". Usually, we see the woman being shorter than her man, but the opposite happens!
It shouldn't annoy or bother anyone, height shouldn't determine a relationship status. Commonly known, women are trained to see that taller men are more respected, more of everything, yet it's entirely false, but that could be an "agree to disagree" type of subject! 
Short men had to deal with bullying, got insulted, and humiliated by how short they are... Come on now, should we categorize short men as just shorties who aren't protective enough. 

Everyone is entitled to their opinions and preferences, I personally prefer a taller man, not that it would be hard because I believe everyone is taller than me. Tall men usually attract me more than shorter guys because somewhere along the way, they seem more protective, and most likely to be a little more respected. It is quite wrong, but unconsciously our society subconsciously made women believe that taller men are more respected, more attractive and rewarded. Untrue, indeed, yet, women still believe it... 
Can't judge anyone for being sexually attracted to taller people and preferring a certain height. 


Women seem to be more concentrated on height while men don't care much! After all, sexually, no matter the height of someone, it works! However, size matter to some people! 
After a few studies that were made, it may seem that physical features such as height are not the dominant rule, especially with females. 
Some data suggest that the main reason females prefer a tall partner are for protection and feminity. 
It's just like I said above, protection, and when you can wear heels and still be shorter, it's quite the advantage for many women. 

Usually, people go for similar height so it would be easy to kiss, hold hand and do other activities with the partner. 

Many studies happened, yet each time, women prefer taller men and men prefer to be in a relationship with shorter women. It proves that society encourages men to be dominant and women to be submissive, having the image fo tall men hovering over short women reinforced this value. The masculine ability to offer physical protection is clearly connected to the gender stereotype. We all heard about men being the one hunting and protecting the family while the woman is here to get birth. It's a traditional societal expectation! We can't do much about it, but we can stop embarrassing shorter people especially men! 

In my opinion, height, size shouldn't matter especially when it comes to love. But it seems like I've always been drawn to taller guys, I feel more secure in their arms... Even though I could feel totally protected with a shorter man, yet, taller is more attractive to me. Again, if a woman is taller than her man, the relationship isn't worse or better, as long as if they are both happy, the height doesn't to any of them! 

Let's stop judging, and let's love continue its course! Let's everyone go with whoever they are attracted to. 

"It doesn't matter what size or shape you are. Burlesque is about feeling positive about who you are, about knowing how to shake what you have and being proud of it." -Baby Doe

~Bella

Psych 101... Love, Listening to your heart...

Love may be one of the most complex human emotions, but also possibly the most central too. There are many different theories regarding love and while psychologists agree that love is central human emotion, they are still unsure exactly why it happens, or how. At present, there are four primary theories that attempt to explain love, emotional attachment, and liking. 

RUBIN'S SCALES OF LIKING AND LOVING

Psychologist Zick Rubin was one of the first people to create a method of empirically measuring love. Rubin believed that romantic love was composed of three elements: attachment, caring, and intimacy.

• Attachment: The need to be with another person and be cared for. Important components of attachment include approval and physical contact. 
• Caring: Valuing the happiness and needs of the other person just as much as you value your own. 
• Intimacy: Communicating your private desires, feelings, and beliefs.

Rubin then created two questionnaires that would be able to measure these elements. According to Rubin, the difference between liking someone and loving someone can be seen in how we evaluate the other person. Rubin's questions were then created to measure feelings of liking another person and feelings of loving another person, and then these results were compared. When Rubin gave the questionnaire to a group of participants, he told them to base their answers on how they felt about a good friend and how they felt about their significant other. He found that, while the scores regarding significant others rated high on the loving scale. Thus, Rubin was able to successfully measure feelings of love. 

ELAINE HATFIELD'S PASSIONATE AND COMPASSIONATE LOVE

Psychologist Elaine Hatfield claimed that there was only two forms of love: passionate and compassionate love, 

• Passionate love: Feelings of intense sexual arousal, attraction, affection, emotion, and a strong urge to be with one another. Passionate love tends to be short-lived, lasting from six to thirty months, but can lead to compassionate love. 
• Compassionate love: Feelings of attachment, respect, trust, affection, and commitment. Compassionate love lasts longer than passionate love. 

Hatfield also differentiated between reciprocated love, which leads to feelings of elation and fulfillment, and unreciprocated love, which leads to feelings of desperation and despair. She believed there were certain key factors that had to exist for compassionate and passionate love to occur. These include: 

• Timing: When an individual is ready to fall and be in love.
• Similarity: A person has the tendency to fall passionately in love with an individual that is similar to him or herself.
• Early attachment styles: Long-term and deeper relationships are often the results of people who are strongly attached to one another, while people who fall in and out of love often generally do not have a strong attachment or connection.

"Studying psychology is fun because you're always looking for the same things.." 

~Bella