A hopeless romantic writer who only wants to share with the entire world.
"Your story may not have such a happy beginning, but that doesn't make you who you are. It is the rest of your story, who you choose to be..."
Have you ever felt a magnetic pull towards certain individuals? Something you cannot explain in word form.
Some would call it chemistry, others would call it love at first sight. Both true as it is still undetermined, an unexplainable emotion which cannot be translated or put into words.
Let's not get confused on what chemistry is though, it's a simple yet complex emotion when two people share a special connection and it is not necessarily a sexual connection. Having chemistry with someone is still to this day an unsolved mystery. An unexpected mystery which many believe in different theories. As someone said before, "Chemistry has a purpose. It's not random, it's not a fluke." A strong attraction that many think is bad. But is it that bad? Sure, if you want a quiet, simple life, having a strong attraction isn't for you. Wanting an uncomplicated love life is nearly impossible, it's something we all wish for, yet, we, humans are complex. Being easy doesn't seem to be on the program. I can't talk to you about chemistry without giving you my own experience and what I've seen throughout the years.
Like I said in the post, I felt secure with the guy. One specific person who happened to be a stranger.
As cheesy as it may seems, I had some type of attraction towards the person. Some type of chemistry, and all I could think about is "Will I ever see him again?", "Will we ever talk again?" It was an impulse which wouldn't leave me, still hasn't left.
To describe chemistry in a few words, it's a combination of basic psychological arousal combined with a feeling of pleasure. Rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, and sensations of excitement that are often similar to sensations associated with danger. It's a sensation you cannot control, like the uncontrollable smile whenever you are thinking about that person... I think I'm officially making a fool of myself trying to explain what chemistry is all about. Having this emotion is an amazing experience, something that makes you happy, but it is also an emotion I wish no one had to deal with. Chemistry doesn't necessarily guarantee a chance of you seeing the person or talk to them again. Don't expect that, not many get this lucky. It's an emotion which may turn into a nightmare, living nightmare. I would know about it, trust me, I'm currently living this nightmare myself and ... Sadly, I cannot stop thinking or do something without thinking about a particular person... Cherry on top, I hadn't had to deal with chemistry with one stranger but two. Again, not a happy feeling as now, I'm stuck looking at people passing me by on the streets or looking at motorcycles like a kid on Christmas wishing it was the person. My thoughts are going wild, and instead of my being like my friend, I talked about it, I speak my mind. If you experience chemistry with someone go for it, you may be lucky, but remember that if the person has no intention calling you, texting you or anything, chemistry was only felt on your part and not on their part.
"There is something beautiful about unforced bonds; the energy is real." ~Bella
Last month, I talked about starting a series of " Should It Matter?", and today is the first day! I'm excited to actually start something big like this, well for me is! Size! Don't start thinking about the dirty part of the size... We all know that somewhere along the way, the size of a man's private is quite important to women; now many will refuse on telling the truth as it could be disappointing to many people, men to be exact. Sadly, it is not what I'm talking about... Size as in someone's height.
Have you ever come across a couple where the woman is slightly taller than the man? I know I have, frequently, and I always wondered how and why would a man prefer a taller woman? But when it comes to having the man being taller than the woman, it seems as it is just "normal", almost commonly known to be completely "normal". Usually, we see the woman being shorter than her man, but the opposite happens! It shouldn't annoy or bother anyone, height shouldn't determine a relationship status. Commonly known, women are trained to see that taller men are more respected, more of everything, yet it's entirely false, but that could be an "agree to disagree" type of subject! Short men had to deal with bullying, got insulted, and humiliated by how short they are... Come on now, should we categorize short men as just shorties who aren't protective enough. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and preferences, I personally prefer a taller man, not that it would be hard because I believe everyone is taller than me. Tall men usually attract me more than shorter guys because somewhere along the way, they seem more protective, and most likely to be a little more respected. It is quite wrong, but unconsciously our society subconsciously made women believe that taller men are more respected, more attractive and rewarded. Untrue, indeed, yet, women still believe it... Can't judge anyone for being sexually attracted to taller people and preferring a certain height. Women seem to be more concentrated on height while men don't care much! After all, sexually, no matter the height of someone, it works! However, size matter to some people! After a few studies that were made, it may seem that physical features such as height are not the dominant rule, especially with females. Some data suggest that the main reason females prefer a tall partner are for protection and feminity. It's just like I said above, protection, and when you can wear heels and still be shorter, it's quite the advantage for many women. Usually, people go for similar height so it would be easy to kiss, hold hand and do other activities with the partner. Many studies happened, yet each time, women prefer taller men and men prefer to be in a relationship with shorter women. It proves that society encourages men to be dominant and women to be submissive, having the image fo tall men hovering over short women reinforced this value. The masculine ability to offer physical protection is clearly connected to the gender stereotype. We all heard about men being the one hunting and protecting the family while the woman is here to get birth. It's a traditional societal expectation! We can't do much about it, but we can stop embarrassing shorter people especially men! In my opinion, height, size shouldn't matter especially when it comes to love. But it seems like I've always been drawn to taller guys, I feel more secure in their arms... Even though I could feel totally protected with a shorter man, yet, taller is more attractive to me. Again, if a woman is taller than her man, the relationship isn't worse or better, as long as if they are both happy, the height doesn't to any of them! Let's stop judging, and let's love continue its course! Let's everyone go with whoever they are attracted to.
"It doesn't matter what size or shape you are. Burlesque is about feeling positive about who you are, about knowing how to shake what you have and being proud of it." -Baby Doe ~Bella
Sunday was a wedding day for a family friend... Got to wear a dress with heels and look cute for the special day! It was a wonderful, beautiful ceremony! Loved being able to assist it, and being a part of it all! I was more than happy to be there, got to see people I enjoy spending time with! Now I don't want to talk about the wedding as it is private and, to be honest, I'm sure you are all tired of hearing about weddings, after all, it's wedding season! So let's talk about my little wonder because it's not the first time something like this happens!
Last Friday was the before wedding party at some friends house, I came and got the chance to meet the kids of parents I already knew. The parents have two boys of their own and adopted the others. Now if you don't know me, you have to know that kids tend to like me quite a lot, and I love them! I love spending time and give everything I have for them! It's like that motherly type of "thing" that I have. Annoying but useful. At the party, I got tired of talking to adults (they can be boring); I decided to go check up on the kids who were playing on the other side of the house, the front to be exact, playing around with a BB gun, tennis table, basketball... Sadly, one of the kid, the youngest got a mark on his back from getting shot multiple times with the BB gun! Dangerous game if you ask me! The poor little 8-year-old Joey didn't even cry, but I couldn't help myself, I needed to give him ice to put on his back! Now don't think he didn't have his father around, but I took the charge because parents need time off! Then, one of his older brothers stepped on his leg and bruised it, more ice was going to be added which was alright with me. I was taking care of a cute kid. What else could I have asked for?!
Keep in mind that I only met the kid two days prior to the wedding! We all around 11 A.M., looking sharp, waiting for the ceremony to start and having everyone around! When I stepped away from the car, I hugged Joey's mother who was standing the closest and Joey not far away from us came running towards me. I backed away wondering how he was going to say "hi", and jumped on me! He said hello, and hugged me tightly, not wanted to let go! I'm always happy to have kids running towards me, it's always a great way to know they love me, but I was wearing a dress... And if you never held a kid in your arms, they either tend to pull down on shirts or pull up dresses (for women). I managed to pull it down before my panties got to be seen and kept holding little Joey until one of his older brother the 10 years old one jumped on me as well. Heavier kid, and this time my dress didn't get to pull up which made me happy! So I got to get plenty hugs from both of them. Throughout the wedding and the lunch moment, Joey was either hugging me, jumping on me, or trying to get me to eat chillies which will NEVER happen! I don't do spicy, but I ended up playing around with him and the other kids. I'm rather short and not that heavy, so holding a kid who's close to my weight was pretty damn hard, I finally have sore arms. I can't lift any arms without feeling pain. It's bugging me, but it was worth it all!
So now, I was wondering how I get kids to like me and why I attract them. It's not the first time, but this one, after one night, he remembered me and jumped on me! I was surprised, and now I'm wondering why kids come to me. I look like a child but I'm older, way older than all of them. Why do they come? I don't do anything, and I surely not the easiest to deal with, I'm rather strict at times. Honestly, if you have any idea why this happen, can you let me know in the comments below so I can finally figure this out? "Children do not care how much you know until they know how much you care." - Teddy Roosevelt
~Bella Ps: I will probably post a picture of me and little Joey when I get photos but I don't have them yet so you'll have to be patient! :)
